Pride Month

June represents a month of recognition for those in the LGBT community and it is referred to as Pride Month, and various countries around the world recognize it in memory of the Stonewall Riots of 1969. So, in my own way, I thought I’d offer my thoughts on the subject of LGBT pride from my personal perspective. But, before I do that, realize I’m not one to really engage in the agenda, movement or Pride celebrations.

With the idea of pride in me head, I decided to search the posts I have where I have mentioned or discussed pride. I’ve often discussed (mostly in my last blog), that I will never be the kind of person to stand on rooftops with my bullhorn and yelling about bisexual pride, nor will I be marching in parades wearing nothing but leather chaps and waving the Bi-Pride flag. In fact, as I mentioned in one post, I really, really, really struggle with being out and open. On some level, I feel like any vices I may or may not have should not be a matter of contempt to anyone else. In a sense, I suppose I see it is as my issue and I cautiously decide with whom I want to share it.

I also noticed in a lot of my posts, however, that I am self-deprecating in a lot of ways too. I don’t want to be a forceful individual when it comes to my sexuality, but I also do not want to be hateful towards myself. I have found myself denigrating who I am in a lot of ways. I have referred to myself with disparaging remarks that tear down my character. In this sense, I do want to have a sense of pride, almost in a way that builds me up in much the way I indicated in other posts here and there. I guess what I’m saying is that pride has its place, but it shouldn’t be overbearing.

For example, this morning, I read an interesting post with respect to the representation of LGBT in a certain genre of movie making. The author was making a point I have always felt is important. The idea that my sexuality should not be the thing that defines my overall being.  Even as much as I write about it here, I have always wanted to have the comfort level that it is just a part of who I am and not the totality of who I am. The author in this post, expresses my attitude towards what I think (and truthfully, a major reason that I never accepted my own sexuality) about sexuality in general – it should just be what it is and not the singling out of anyone based upon said sexuality.

I have a friend here on WordPress that once told me that his bisexuality is on a need to know basis. And although, I discuss mine quite a bit online, I am highly reluctant to share it openly with anyone in my real life – although, I have been tempted from time to time to share it.  There is a part of me that wants to bust open the flood gates of my sexuality, for the self-repression I have put myself through, but there is another part of me that yields to the reality that I want that acceptance to be a subject of fact and not as that “bisexual guy”. I have so many other qualities to my personality and my attraction to both men and women are not the highlights – isn’t raw sexuality the essence of shallowness (Possible subject post someday, maybe)? I really liked what I read this morning, because I think it really fleshes out the issue of bias and the true representation (or exploitation, if you will) of individual sexuality.

These are just my thoughts mind you, and I respect others’ opinions, of course.

And for those who celebrate this month, Happy Pride to you.

11 thoughts on “Pride Month

  1. Raw sexuality isn’t the essence of shallowness but denying that one is sexual (and in any context) very well may be. Our sexuality is only one part of us and if we’re talking about it, sure, it seems like it’s the highlight of what makes us the person we are and while it’s not really that much of a highlight, our sexuality, our views on sex, etc., does define the whole of us.

    The thing about making movies is what one might see is what the script writer and the director thinks should be portrayed and from what I’ve heard from others, they don’t always get it right and tend to wind up rehashing stereotypes and other misconceptions because, otherwise, the movie would be rather boring. Some put emphasis on romance; some try to focus on the sexuality issues many people face but they’re also issues that cannot be easily generalized; depending on what the censors allow a filmmaker to get away with, the sex can be illustrated… but it may not be illustrated without exaggerations or resulting to showing us an idea – a concept – of how it might go down.

    And then movie makers only have so much time to tell a story; unless a movie is very damned good, no one is gonna sit in a theater for the length of time it takes to tell a more accurate story. They’ll spend months filming and capturing every nuance they can… and the resulting movie might not be much more than a couple of hours at best – and I’m not sure how one can tell a story about sexuality in what is a relatively short period of time.

    I do give filmmakers a B for effort; at least someone’s trying to get the message out there…

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    1. The specific movies discussed in that post had nothing to do with sexuality, which was the blogger’s point – the film maker’s sexuality should not be a qualifying factor in the critique of the film, but typically is.

      That aside, “raw sexuality” might have been misleading – I was trying to imply that sexual interactions are not defining of our whole being – our vocations, our hobbies, our dreams, our inspirations are highly relevant and sexuality is only a portion of our make up. Don’t you think?

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  2. It should never matter who you love or are attracted to. I wish we didn’t live in a world where people make such a big deal out of of it. We’re drawn to people, not genders. As great as it is to be proud, I dont feel people should HAVE to either hold it in or shout it from the rooftops. In 2018, we should all just love and respect each other (and ourselves). 💜

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  3. It makes me sad that you talk about being bi and then seem to condemn it by saying: “On some level, I feel like any vices I may or may not have should not be a matter of contempt to anyone else.” Where’s the vice in any sexual orientation that is not abusive…? Spoiler alert: there is none.

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    1. My point is that my sexual desires should not be focused on “changing” someone else – i.e. contempt. To me that is abusive, and that was my point. I certainly did not mean to imply a sort of shame in it, despite the fact that I have felt shame before.

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  4. Thank you for sharing this post. I’ve been in dialogue with myself about this for quite a few years since I started self identifying as Bi. I found celebrating my sexuality openly by flags, talking about it constantly abit forced for me as I’ve always viewed my sexual experiences/ preferences as very personal. I don’t like the idea of being “boxed” in or put into categories. However I also think part of that lack of openness is rooted in internalized homophobia which I’m still unlearning. I want to be more open and free about my sexuality, sometimes I envy people who can tell everyone their sexual orientation without concern. I’m happy to see someone else thinking about these things bc I’ve always felt this conflict x

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  5. Reblogged this on Acquiescent Soul and commented:

    Since tomorrow marks the beginning of Pride Month, I thought I would offer this post as a Reblog. Honestly, my feelings about the subject have not changed much, but I have become a little more comfortable with who I am. It’s all a process for me, mind you, but I wanted to post this as reflection from a year ago.


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