This morning, during a conversation on Twitter, I mentioned the fact that I’m married and almost 50 (I’m 46) years old, means my bisexuality is irrelevant. Honestly, there are times when I feel like having people recognize and accept my sexuality is validating and empowering. I feel like this is an important part of building my own self-image over the matter, since I have spent so many years in denial about my sexuality. But I also feel like there is sort of this ‘meh’ about it all. I mean, it’s not like I’m dating or looking and it seems as if it might be something that is irrelevant. Add on top of that, that I’m married and attempting to make my marriage work, having any inclinations outside of my marriage would seemingly thwart those efforts, so there is another aspect of my sexuality being irrelevant.
As one might expect, the conversation on Twitter, somewhat refuted the idea that sexuality is irrelevant. And I get it, our individual sexual inclinations will have the direct effect of motivating us towards a certain relationship. Obviously, heterosexual people will engage in opposite sex relationships, homosexual people will engage in same-sex relationships and bisexual people are open to relationships with either gender. So, I grasp the idea that sexual orientation has relevance in that respect.
But sometimes, I ponder, if there is an ideal attitude? Would it really matter, if sexual orientation was simply as accepted as red hair, or blue eyes, or being short or tall, or whatever individual characteristic we may or may not be born with? Sometimes, I think relevance has meaning because of the importance we put on it. I don’t believe I am at that stage of enlightenment in my own self-acceptance, but I can see that it might be the point that our society can finally claim some sort of accomplishment.
Is it relevant that I am bisexual? Does it matter to you? What level of importance do you put on sexual orientation?