BMJ: Day 8 – Create a Self-Appreciation Jar

I’m continuing to read and work through the guidelines in Beautiful You. Today’s recommendation is to begin a jar that can collect money on every self-deprecating thing that you can say about yourself. The idea is that every time you say something negative or destructive about yourself, you throw money into a jar. Then, when it is full, you rewards yourself with some treat or something.  Although I totally agree with the concept, this is a difficult thing for me to do, because it requires some sort of accountability I can’t seem to muster for myself. I know when I tried working through this book before, I made myself a sub-category in this online journal and called it “Appreciation Jar” and anytime I ranted in a post about one of Hilda’s visits, then I would write something positive about myself. Honestly, I can see pluses and minuses to either method. But, I am not feeling very engaged today and I would love to welcome some input from my readers.

So, I’ll ask all of you a question:

What are some ways I can counter-act negative thinking?

I’m looking for something creative to spark me into doing this and making myself accountable.

7 thoughts on “BMJ: Day 8 – Create a Self-Appreciation Jar

  1. Hmmmm, it seems I might end up be more self-deprecating JUST to get the reward! But that’s how my mind works. LOL As far as countering negative thinking, I would recommend you determine what would put a smile on your face first thing in the morning, and then make sure you can replicate it. Maybe it’s setting your alarm clock to your favorite song? Simple stuff to create a new habit.

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  2. On the occasions my mind gets like that, I just tell it to stop – that’s the simplest way to explain it. I know my head is about to go down the wrong street and I’ll either send the STOP command or if my head ain’t listening, whatever it’s bugging about, I’ll say to myself, “Yeah, well, not today. Not today.” I’ll ask myself, “Is there anything you can do about it?” and if the answer is no, then I’ll ask my traitorous brain, “Then why are we going there? Leave it alone!”

    I’ll even let it run through whatever’s making me feel negative but without really “paying attention” to it – then ask myself, “Are you done?” or I’ll tell myself, “Ain’t got time to be worried about that – find something else to think about already and something that I might be interested in.”

    It’s like I know my brain is gonna do this no matter how many happy thoughts I try to have at any given moment. Sometimes I’ll turn on my Xbox and play a game and especially one involving guns and explosions and challenging enough that I have to pay more attention to not getting wiped out than I am whatever my brain wants to worry about. I think it’s really about a shift in focus; you feel it coming on and I’ve had a lot of practice heading it off at the pass by thinking of something else or, simply, doing something, like cranking up my Apple Music app and listening to a song or two that’s calming and, specifically, since I’m a musician, one that has a degree of complication in the composition of the song or, as with the song I’m currently hooked on, it’s so simple and eloquent which also makes it complicated enough that I’m now thinking about being able to play all of the parts of the song (and I can really play most of them except the sax parts – just totally sucked trying to learn that instrument).

    Now I’m “lost” in the music and the lyrics of the song and even the way the woman performs the vocals. FYI, the song is, “In Love With You” by Euge Groove – he used to play with Tower of Power back in the day. Any negativity can’t stand up against this song, its music and lyrics and feeling – not thinking about – the joy of what it means to be in love with someone and in its “purest” form. This song stays stuck in my head like you wouldn’t believe and I can’t remember the last time I had a “legit” negative thought that warranted some attention.

    Makes my asshole brain ask, “Hey… what was I thinking about?”

    Me: “Fuck if I know; I wasn’t paying attention. Now, be quiet – the song is starting again…”

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  3. Whenever I have a negative thought, I try to think of a replacement. For example, sometimes I get stuck thinking about those who are not supportive (like I wrote about), but now, I start to count the people who are supportive instead. You could do the same where you have a self-deprecating thought, but then think the opposite, even if you don’t believe it and say it out loud.

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