During an argument I had once with someone I had trusted with the knowledge that I am bisexual, I was threatened with that person outing me to family and friends. It was hurtful that I allowed this person to have that kind of power over me and it has had me worried ever since that it could happen. Granted, it wasn’t the first time the threat has been made, but it was the most worrisome. Something similar happened last week, so I am debating attacking the matter by outing myself. I’m considering telling my parents about both my alcoholism and my sexuality, so each of them can hear it straight (no pun intended) from me and not from someone else that is being vindictive. It has always been my belief that the best way to deal with some secret being revealed is to get in front of it and take the power and reveal it about yourself first.
So, I’ve strongly been considering letting my parents know. I am not sure how either one of them would take it and it worries me that they would somehow blame themselves. Although my parents are no longer together and haven’t been for 30 years, I still am concerned about how they might perceive themselves with the revelation of my sexuality to them.
So it got me wondering about people’s coming out stories, so I am proposing the following Question For My (LGBTQ) Readers:
How did you come out?